ರವಿಬೆಳಗೆರೆ ಹೇಳಿದಂತೆ ಮಕ್ಕಳನ್ನು ಒಪ್ಪವಾಗಿ ಬೆಳೆಸಿ...
ರವಿ ಬೆಳಗೆರೆ ಲೇಖನಗಳನ್ನು ಈ ಓದುಗರು ತಪ್ಪದೆ ಓದುತ್ತಾರೆ, ಕೆಲವು ಅಭಿಪ್ರಾಯಗಳನ್ನು ಒಪ್ಪುವುದಿಲ್ಲ. ಆದರೆ ಈ ಲೇಖನ ಇಷ್ಟವಾಗಿದೆ. ಯಾಕೆ?
Dear Mr. Belagere:
I regularly read your articles. Occasionally, I disagree with you. However, I totally agree with you on the this article. One must give space to children and study with them and help them grow in that space - "Good fences make good neighbors" - Frost. Then allow them to develop their wings and let them explore the space.
I did not attend any child management courses (if there are any!)-instead, I followed these simple rules and set them for myself. Today, my first daughter is graduating from Oxford at 19, and the second one will be entering Oxford. As you have pointed out, my daughter (in spite of her Oxford education) never avoids an occasion to discuss a lot of things with us (my wife and I) and incorporates them into her daily routine. By the way, although they were born and brought up in the U. S., both make it a point to speak in Kanna da only during our casual conversation.
People often forget the simple principles that you have outlined in your article while bringing up their children...but expect a great deal from them. "Makkala scoolu manelalve?" - TPK. Keep writing good articles and keep up the good work. Regards,
What a wonderful and True article. I also strongly assume that it is part of the parents who lead the kids to a squeeky path by handling the situation different.
Let me tell you this. When I was a high school and college kid I still remember that my mom never sent us to a private tution and spend all evening or morning away from home. Instead she use to get up with us (I had 3 older siblings too) in the morning at 5 am and use to sit with us, keeping an eye on us (just around making coffee, or breakfast still focusing on us) and just created a good environment for us making us think that Mama is watching us and also supporting us in all possible way. Also she use to make a point to visit our school and talk to the right people just to make sure that we are on track. This made us go in a right direction and all of us have been turned out very successful. I strongly feel that it is parents responsibility to make us good citizens.
Ofcourse, then (15 to 20 yrs back) we did not have cable TV facility nor multiple TVs at home and computers which kept my parents away from watching Serials. Lately I have been noticing, especially in India that Parents get back from the work (may be from stressful jobs) and think that they need an entertainment and hook to the serials all evening along with kids (some families) and this made kids spend time on their own or with their friends and away from Parental attention.
But in USA I think our life is little different. We the parents work around the kids schedule. Will make it a point for one parental attention before school and after school. We have less addiction to TV and also to the social life. Knock on wood, I think kids have been raised in a better way over here (Im talking about Indian kids) having no clue on the social life, society, Status - poor or rich etc..
My Over all point is THE PARENTAL ROLE Is very important in kids life especially till 18 years and once they are brought up in a simple, humble and truthful life, I guarantee that they will turn out to be the good citizens.
My last request to parents is please wake up. Think about your kids future.Spend quality time with them. Please ignore your status in the society and feed the kids mind in a right Direction.
Thanks to Ravi Belegere for the wonderful article.
My self and My husband (parents of 2 wonderful girls 10 and 5 yrs old)always believe that Spending the quality time with our children boost them and make them feel comfortable and to do the best they could. Sorry for my long mail. I really feel like going on with this subject just to make the parents aware of their role.
Great advice. Thank you, Ravi B. Always enjoy reading your articles.